
It's been awhile since I updated and I'm here to fix that. We were with Nightlight Christian Adoptions and things had been going well. Or so we thought. I had talked to their director a few times at length before we applied. And I'm pretty sure I brought up that I never wanted to have birth children at some point. I don't hide it.
In August we got a phone call. They were declining us. They gave 3 reasons, which I will refute below. They gave our social worker a different reason and wanted her to tell us they were declining. She said they'd have to do that themselves.
Reason #1: Our "huge" debt. Excuse me but our total debt is less than the average American mortgage. Our credit card debt is only about 1/10 of that, add the cars and it's still less than $40,000. The rest is student loans and a mortgage. You can't tell me that
Reason #2: Rob's job situation. Well, he just graduated in the spring last year. He was working seasonally for the IRS. The season ended for him in May or June. He got unemployment after that and started job hunting. He was working part-time at Pizza Hut throughout. They declined us just after Rob had gotten hired to be an office manager for H&R Block. It is still seasonal, but it's a good-paying job and will be good experience for him in his next job hunt.
Reason #3: A communicable disease that I won't go into here. It's personal. And it's the only possibly viable reason.
The reason they gave our social worker is probably the real reason they declined us: They are concerned that I don't want to have birth children. This Christian agency can't think God is big enough to make someone like me who choose adoption first and only.
Needless to say, we will never go back to that agency. Nor would we recommend them to anyone. They did refund us 3/4 of the $2000 dollars we'd already paid.
So we took a bit of a break. I was devastated at first. Then I just got angry that they'd not only get with God on this but lie about it, too. We just took a break while we decided what to do. We talked to two other adoption agencies, including about the 4 reasons given and only #3 was a valid concern--until it was healed. Then the holidays came up.
So now we're ready to get started again. We have chosen to try Small World Adotpions. They are in
Please pray that this will be the right agency. We're going to do a Home Study Addendum first to clear up the health issues (by taking one problem off!) and Rob's job situation.
We'll have to do a Home Study Update in August. Hopefully by then, Rob will have a permanent job and that won't come up again.
Our agency has concerns about our ability to afford the adoption. 
Please pray that we are approved and that we are approved before Sept. 1st.



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